By Steven Bancarz, Spirit Science and Metaphysics, May 27, 2015
We sometimes tend to think of “enlightenment” as an uplifting, satisfying, and enjoyable process. What could be more blissful and fun than waking up to your authentic self? Awakening is one of the most exciting processes you could be a part of in life.
But the truth is, there are many many steps down the road to enlightenment that many people don’t want to take. Why? Because they are painful, threatening, or depressing. Not to mention, they can be incredibly scary. Sometimes, becoming the greatest version of yourself requires you to do things that you have nothing but pure resistance for.
The goal of this article is to inspire people to take a look inside themselves and see if there are any crucial steps that need to be taken for the good of the evolution of their soul. I still struggle with these things myself on a daily basis, so I know what it is like to resist the things which will benefit the soul the most.
Here are 3 scary steps to enlightenment most people don’t want to take.
1) Being honest with yourself, even when it’s painful
Someone once said that honest is the first chapter in the book of wisdom. If we are looking to evolve and step into the ascended, loving person we know we can be, the first step is looking at things as they really are. Before we can change reality, we have to be honest with what we see and acknowledge that it is there.
Before we can change ourselves, we have to honestly look at the “self” we have to change without any personal bias getting in the way. Are we grounded enough? Are we compassionate, sympathetic, and loving enough? Are we mindful enough? If the answer to any of these is no, it’s importance to be honest with this so that healing and transformation can begin to take place.
2) Letting go of your ego/social identity
As we grow up, we develop an egoic sense of self. This isn’t to say it’s bad. It’s just not who you are on the deepest level. Your social identity, your beliefs, history, personality, preferences, and thoughts about yourself are the essential building blocks of the ego. Arguably the most important part of enlightenment is to recognize the following:
- The ego is not you. It is a function within your consciousness that can be seen by you.
- The ego is a mentally constructed sense of identity that will one day die.
- The ego is usually so deep-rooted into our sense of “I” that it is sometimes all we ever live as.
A lot of people are simply too attached to their own egos to allow room for Spirit to fill their consciousness. The best thing you can do for your enlightenment is let go of “you”, practice meditation to reach deeper states of consciousness, and derive your sense of self from your spirit and not from your mind or egoic identity.
3) Forgiving people who have wronged you
I have caught myself a lot lately thinking about people who used to doubt me, bully me, and pick on me when I was in high school. Even 5 years after being out of highschool, I still occasionally see a sort of resentment and judgment bubble up inside me, almost as if something wants to get revenge on them in some way.
If you want to get revenge on someone who has wronged you, the best way you can get back at someone is to expose them to themselves through forgiveness and compassion. That will free you from the emotional burden of being attached to what they did to you, while also making the biggest impression in their consciousness.
Instead of reacting out of what is fair, just, or what you feel you are entitled to emotionally, step outside of that and simply act from grace. When their low vibration encounters your high vibration, they see their own inner shadows and will collapse into a state of humility and humbleness.
Would you rather get back at someone who has wronged you by making them cry over having their feelings hurt? Or by making them cry from seeing their own darkness reflected back to them from the presence of your light?
These are 3 of the most painful steps that people don’t want to take during their journey through enlightenment. It’s helpful to remember that sometimes enlightenment is about feeling pain, anger, and most of all, uncomfortable. Strive to be the greatest version of yourself, even if it makes your “self” feel a little threatened at times.