Marquita Herald: My Problem With Relying On “The Journey”

The Quality of the Journey

By Marquita Herald, Emotionally Resilient Living, May 21, 2015

All hail the journey! Seriously, just to be clear, I’m not knocking “the journey” because if we do it right we can grow and learn so many things in the process of striving to achieve something … my problem is when we make the journey the main focus and relegate the destination to the coming attractions that we may or may not ever get around to.

Somewhere along the line we seem to have lost sight of the fact that the journey and the destination are not mutually exclusive. Even though they are often used in the same context, the journey of life is not the same as the journey to achieve a goal. For example, when you set a goal to master a skill, achieve a promotion, or start your own business, the point of setting the goal is to actually reach that goal. Sometimes we set bigger goals than we can reasonably achieve, and sometimes life gets in the way. But more often than not we simply aren’t willing to experience the discomfort that comes with going the extra mile to fulfill our potential.

I went for years not finishing anything. Because, of course, when you finish something you can be judged. I had poems which were re-written so many times I suspect it was just a way of avoiding sending them out. ~Erica Jong

Most journeys to achieve a goal have a great start, a boring middle and superb end. Many people start something because it looks interesting but give up in the middle because the initial charm has disappeared or because it starts getting tougher to make progress. The Zen of the journey argument may be a great pacifier for our egos, but wandering through life with a collection of eternal journeys without ever reaching a destination deprives you of experiencing the euphoria and gratification that comes with actually crossing the finish line.

Celebrate the day on which you choose to embrace the power you have to create your own life experience. It is an amazing journey and you alone will be responsible for the quality of it.

About Marquita Herald

Marquita HeraldI am an author and the Chief Evangelist and Founder of Emotionally Resilient Living. The mission behind ERL is to provide the tools, resources and inspiration to help you cultivate emotional resilience so that you can confidentially embrace ALL of life’s experiences, knowing that no matter what happens, you will be okay.

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